When you criticize the spacing of a person’s children, you wind up condemning the life of that person’s child.
Saying that my life would be easier if my youngest wasn’t born yet is really just a somewhat sugar coated way to say that my youngest shouldn’t be here. And next month’s egg would be different – making my child different. Things may or may not be easier if they were different. But that is not helpful in any real, practical way. 1, it isn’t certain. 2, the hurt caused by saying my child shouldn’t exist will overshadow any intent to convince me to space my next child farther from my last.
And saying you think my child shouldn’t have been born, even if you only mean ‘yet’, is never helpful. It’s hurtful. And it will break down trust.
The lack of trust, and the hurt, it lingers.