To repeatedly demand payment where payment has already been paid (on our behalf through Jesus Christ) is to negate the message of the Gospel.
Yes. This. If spanking my child is the way to teach him right from wrong, if there are still penalties to be paid, someone owes Jesus an apology. I don’t want to live my life like Jesus’s death was for nothing. I don’t want to subtly imply to my children that their sins aren’t forgiven.
The Hippie Housewife has two previous posts in this series and I highly recommend them. If you are at all on the fence about the theology of parenting gently, these posts are a great read.