“The balls have done just as much, if not MORE, to change my behavior as they’ve done with my kids. I’m so invested in helping them keep their balls, that I find I’m more willing to take the time to help them figure out better ways to handle their disagreements, frustrations, and/or self destructive willfulness. We ALL want the balls to stay in the jars, so when things get heated or tense, I just remind my sons of their balls . . . and everyone chills out enough to think about the best way to stay on track.”
She’s found something that (so far) works really well for her home, and she’s recognizing the impact it’s had on her as well. This is so encouraging! As much as I want to stay away from conditional parenting tools, I love that for the last 4 days, she’s been able to build and reinforce habits as a parent that she’s proud of, and that her kids have had the same 4 days of practice. At some point, ping pong balls aren’t gonna cut it for controlling the behavior of her kids, but even if she dumped the ball system today, she and her kids would be starting with a new outlook and a new (renewed) relationship.
I love it.